You're Right, So What

I have a thing about what is "right." I feel like I spend an inordinate amount of time learning, growing, taking things in, and becoming a better person. The cool thing is that along the way I have improved relationships that I already have, and have made new relationships with got-it-goin' on people. Unfortunately, one unpleasant fact remains. Not everyone is evolving. Not everyone is on board the sanity train. Some people are on the crazy train and not everyone plays fair.

You can be the most enlightened creature on the planet and be thought a fool. You can be right, and it just doesn't mean anything. Not all crazy people live in institutions. Not all people with "stuff" wear a sign warning you to limit your contact with them.

So, what to do? Develop your ability to allow others to be as crazy, stupid, selfish, or whatever, and do not give it an ounce of energy. Do not get on the crazy train, the view from the sane train is prettier and the destination is better.

Recently, I found myself defending my sanity over and again against people whose logic is so flawed. I started to distrust my own reality. I NEEDED to be validated that I was sane and in essence "right." I hated that people were taking advantage, being rude, and messing with me(this is all my personal "stuff"). I wanted those people to be in trouble, or to have consequences for shaking my tree. Boo hoo, it was never going to happen. I was allowing their craziness to victimize me. But, I was victimizing myself. I was allowing myself to respond to their stuff when they pushed my buttons.

What I have learned is that I can be right and it won't make a damn bit of difference to someone else. I can be backed up by a jury of my peers and no one will enforce my rightness. Instead of feeling robbed and defeated, I am going to feel proud that I have integrity and remember that what you put out always comes back to you, just not always from the same source you gave it to.